There is one true love that will never fail you and His name is Jesus. He is my Valentine and can be yours also.
Valentine’s day is not my favorite day, hasn’t been for a long time. Not because of why you may think, because I was in a loveless relationship for so long, mainly because I feel it’s a ridiculous “commercial” day. To me it’s just a day for the Florist, Jewelers and Hallmarks of the world to make some bang. If you can’t treat the one you love like it’s Valentines day EVERYDAY then don’t bother…so fake! Although, I do like Valentines day for the kiddo’s, it’s cute.
True love never stops
Sure…when you are truly in love, Valentines day can be so special. A special day, just for the two of you (but then again, isn’t this what Anniversaries are for also)? Especially new love, Oh yes…I remember the days of new love: Love poems, Romantic dinners, flowers & gifts, weekend get away’s…yes I remember them well. One of the “red flags” to look out for is when this all stops! It stopped for me around the 7 /8 year mark.
After a Narcissist has conquered you as their “victim” and they have you where they want you, all this love and adoration may stop abruptly! Be aware…because TRUE LOVE NEVER stops. This type of love turns to Fear and Hate and this is not the way to live.
Love to Hate
Beginning relationship love notes, sweet right? Years later came the hate notes. I got hate notes a lot, left all over the place, even on the seat of my car! Anything from “I hate you” and “Your Stupid” to remarks about my family. He didn’t even know my Father but this is what they do, they target what matters most to you, he knew how to push my buttons to the max to get me riled up. A true psychopath narcissist, they love bomb you then degrade & discard you. Yes, I am more than happy to be single again, good riddance and Thank you Jesus!
Fear is not love
God tells us in John 4:18 that “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love”.
This verse says it all. When you fear the one you love, it’s NOT love. But perfect love (when you Love Jesus), He will cast all your fears away. If you are living in fear, I pray that you turn to Jesus. Accept Him into your heart and fear no more.
1 John 4:8; Anyone who does not Love does not know God, because God is Love.
My Ex proclaimed that he loved God, but according to God’s word in this verse, I truly now believe that he did not. The word “Hate” replaced “Loved” and hate is not of God.
Tell your heart to beat again
After a couple years of feeling “stuck” in a loveless relationship, my heart turned to stone. But God told me to “Let my heart beat again” And I did, I fell in love with Jesus. The One Man that could never disappoint me, besides my own Father that is. Fall in love with him. There is no better way to heal a broken heart because there is NO greater Love!
Rejoice Single people! Don’t hate Valentines day, Embrace it! I know too many girls that jump from one man to the next because they don’t like being alone, this is not healthy. It is so important to heal, to repair your heart and mind. Fill your “empty void” with Jesus.
Listen to Christian music, read the Bible & devotionals, surely He will talk to you through them. He loves you and always will. Nothing you could ever do will separate your love. When God thinks that you are ready, He will direct you to the person that He has already hand picked out for you.
Go out and celebrate yourself, go out with some other single friends (understandably this may be difficult this year due to Covid). Buy yourself some flowers and candy (heck I do his all the time) LOL. You are special, you are God’s child and you deserve to be treated like a queen.
If you are with someone who is treating you wrong, someone you fear more than love, Please seek help. Love your life again! I never thought this would be possible but I do, I Love my life again! Being single, not living a life of abuse is something that I dreamt about for so long. Dreams do become reality, you may not see it yet but have Faith because God does. Keep God first always and it will happen for you also.
What is true love?
True love starts with making the most important decision in your life. The most important decision you will ever make is a decision about Love, God’s Love. By accepting God’s Love, you will more easily love others by His extension. God’s love is eternal & absolute. His care for you will never waiver or change over time. He is not influenced by circumstances or situations. His love penetrates our deepest wounds and causes us to heal, change & grow for it cannot be diminished.
True Love is: Accepting Jesus into your heart. If you haven’t received Jesus as your Savior yet or maybe you want to re-invite Him into your life, got to the “Acceptance prayer” page and ask Him into your heart. You won’t regret it, you will feel love like you never have before, for the rest of our life and after.